My vision and mission

I dream of a world in which each human being can be welcomed unconditionally, no matter what they are passing through.
I dream of a world in which tears, anger and laughter can all have a space to be.
I dream of a world in which no one will ever have to face life traumas and challenges alone.
Finally, I dream of a world in which empathic support systems would be so widespread that each request for being heard and held would find an answer.
Sharing NVC full time to individuals and organisations (like schools, companies etc.), as well as co-creating support system communities through empathy and NVC is my contribution towards this new world.

Oriane Boyer

It is pain that lead me to NVC – conflicts with others, with myself and a painful childhood. I was 22 years old when I read Marshall Rosenberg’s book: “Words are windows or they’re walls”. I remember reading it in one go and being profoundly impacted and moved, thinking to myself: “Finally! I knew there was another way to live and interact!” I feel lucky to have met him and to have had the chance to learn with him intensively.

I never imagined that this path would lead me to such depths… Much more than a tool for communication, I see this process as an art of living that helps me connect to deep aspects both in myself and anyone else.

My own journey with NVC, learning to welcome with compassion my own challenges (grief, insecurity, depression, anger, shame…), has allowed me to feel familiar and at ease with other people’s painful experiences. I always feel moved when I witness uncomfortable emotions, because I see them as a thread, an indicator of something very precious – longings that are reaching out to life.

I live this process as a path. I have not arrived yet. I walk, I fall, I try, I mourn, I celebrate as the human being that I am! At the same time, I feel forever grateful and inspired by what NVC has brought to me: where many therapies have failed me, empathic listening (a very central aspect of NVC) planted seeds of resiliency, compassion and hope inside of my heart.

My learning process

I got into NVC when I was 22 years old, and I got hooked right away. I learned with many different French NVC trainers, like Nicole Azincourt, Anne Bourrit, Lise Rodien, Véronique Brusorio, Saleem Ebrahim and Pascale Molho. Later on I also met Marshall and over the years attended several of his workshops (40 days of training in total). I also met and learned with other international trainers such as Robert Gonzalès (USA), Liv Larsson (SE) and more…

A few years ago I started sharing NVC in the city of Toulouse, together with my close friend and colleague, certified trainer Yoram Mosenzon. Today the NVC community there is large and vibrant.

What do I offer?

I give introductions, conferences and workshops in different places in the world. I am also specialised in One-on-One Healing Sessions as well as Mediation.

What people say / Testimonials

Participants say they experience my teaching as energetic, alive and full of humour, as well as vulnerable and with depth:

“I am still charmed from last weekend, I feel lighter, stronger and more connected with others (which is very special for me!). – M. Vignau

 

“Oriane has been for me an example in terms of authenticity, far from all the masks that I have witnessed so far in my life. The workshop opened up doors and contributed to much more satisfaction in my communication with my surroundings. I am very satisfied, many of my longings were met: vulnerability, connection, harmony, softness and love. At one point during the training she had a moment of doubt which she shared openly with us all, it touched me deeply. Inspired by her example I started to show my vulnerability at work, with my class of students, and it enhanced the connection between them and me tremendously.” – B. Cartron

 

“There was something heavy and unclear that bothered me. Oriane was available and enthusiastic to offer me her empathic presence. Within half an hour (and some tissues) I felt a deep relief and much clarity around what had been weighing on my chest, I became aware about the theme it was related to and how deep it actually went. This was one of the strongest moments for me.” – L. Becquart

 

“I appreciate the delicacy and sensitivity that Oriane showed when she guided me towards taking responsibility for my feelings. Because of that, I learned to speak in the first person, the ‘I’ that takes responsibility for what I experience instead of the ‘YOU’, the ‘YOU’ that blames, the ‘YOU’ that kills. I also like how warm, accessible and human she is. I feel close to her and the connection with her feels real.” – D. Bordeaux

 

“More than active listening, sessions with Oriane are real moments of exchange that allow me to dive deep into my emotions and to go through my resistances with softness.” – L. Breton

 

“Oriane’s teaching is of high quality and very human. She knows to adapt to the rhythm of the group, staying connected to herself and to the people. She offers a soft and safe space to learn very comfortably. She dedicates a lot of time to practicing, which allowed me to go through a personal situation and to experiment the NVC process very deeply. Today I also use NVC in my professional practice (I am an EMDR therapist) and I am amazed to see how it helps my patients to get closer to their thoughts, emotions and needs.”  – I. Martin

 

“I can’t recall the amount of times these last years that I’ve felt fascinated and inspired watching Oriane practice her art. Lately I’ve had the opportunity to witness her mediating two persons that were very angry at each other. I was amazed to see her navigating through this delicate dialogue. With her way of listening and her soft and intuitive way of guiding, she supported these two persons to open up slowly… until I saw them hugging each other! She’s one of the rare persons that I want to open myself to totally, whenever I share myself to her my fear of being judged seems to have vanished.” – F. Georges